Learning How To Really Live

October ushers in all the things I love- the cooler air, the colors of fall, and most of all anything and everything pumpkin!  It also ushers in Breast Cancer Awareness month.  I love to see all the pink and have friends and family who send me pictures of them toting new pink shirts, ribbons, jewelry, or special pink manicures for the month.  October is a reflective time for me as I think back to my own battle with breast cancer and all of the gifts that it brought into my life.  In the middle of my journey it certainly didn't feel like a gift or that anything good could come from it.  It was immensely terrifying to receive the initial diagnosis and it felt like my body had failed me in some way or I had failed my body. I faced a long arduous year filled with numerous surgeries followed by down times as I recovered.  However, it was ultimately the catalyst for completing the adoption of our daughter and taught me experientially the concept of survivor-ship and what it means to really be present and live in each moment.

I relive glimpses of my own personal miracle time and time again in my office.  My journey of survivorship mirrors many of my clients.  Most people enter counseling immensely terrified and deeply wounded.  Something in their life is not working; something or someone has failed them in some way.  Their journeys of healing and recovery are long arduous journeys that are not easy.  Often requiring painful processes of excavation, followed by periods of introspection and self care.  However, as I watch them engage in their own journeys of healing I see them eventually shift into survivors.  The initial shock and pain are gone replaced with healthier coping skills.  I watch them dive into deeper relationships with God as He performs their own personal miracles.  They slowly surround themselves with safe, healthy people who will love them and support their journeys of healing and recovery.  In essence, I have the privilege of watching them learn how to really live, how to be alive and present in each moment of every day.   What a gift it is to be part of their journey into survivor-ship.

Jodell Powers

Accepting the imperfect you

“Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.”
- by Brene Brown

I like that quote, alot.

I have found that in all my years of counseling and ministry there is a turning point in a person's journey to emotional freedom.  There comes a point where a person must accept themselves as imperfect while not condoning the behaviors that may hurt them or the ones they love.  By facing out struggles we pass through the dark night and into dawn. 

Brian Powers

Simple Serenity

I am always encouraged by this prayer; a prayer used all around the world by those hoping for a better tomorrow. Most are familiar with the first few phrases, but there is a great depth to be plumbed with the rest of the prayer.

by Brian Powers

Serenity Prayer

by Reinhold Niebuhr

God, give me grace to accept with serenity

the things that cannot be changed,

Courage to change the things which should be changed,

and the Wisdom to distinguish the one from the other.

Living one day at a time,

Enjoying one moment at a time,

Accepting hardship as a pathway to peace,

Taking, as Jesus did,

This sinful world as it is,

Not as I would have it,

Trusting that You will make all things right,

If I surrender to Your will,

So that I may be reasonably happy in this life,

And supremely happy with You forever in the next.

Amen.